FAQ

Mediation can work for many types of separation, especially where both people are open to finding a practical way forward. The initial meetings help determine whether it’s the right fit for both of you.

No. It’s common to begin with different views. The process is designed to help you work through those differences and move towards outcomes that feel workable for both sides.

That’s often why people choose mediation. The process provides structure and guidance so conversations remain respectful and focused, even when things feel challenging.

No. You remain in control of all decisions. The role of mediation is to guide discussions, not to push outcomes.

The outcomes are documented so both parties have a shared understanding of what’s been agreed. You can then choose the next steps, including seeking independent legal advice if needed.

Yes, shared care is increasingly common.
Contrary to popular belief, there is no rule that one parent automatically “wins” more time.
The court focuses on:

• The child’s best interests
• Safety
• Stability
• Each parent’s capacity

If both parents are capable and involved, 50/50 arrangements are absolutely achievable.
If you’re being told “you’ll never get equal time,” that is often fear talking – not law.

No. “Primary carer” does not mean:

• You make all decisions
• You control schooling
• You decide where the children live long term

Unless a court orders sole parental responsibility, major decisions remain joint.
Many disputes start because one parent misunderstands this.

You have three options:

1. Negotiate directly
2. Attend formal mediation
3. Apply to court (after attempting mediation)

Judges expect parents to support meaningful relationships with both parents.
Refusal without good reason can backfire.

This is more common than people admit.
Courts are highly alert to:

• Gatekeeping
• Undermining behaviour
• Emotional manipulation
• Loyalty conflicts

Children need healthy relationships with both parents.
Undermining that can damage the case of the parent doing it.

An Intervention Order complicates things — but it does not automatically eliminate parenting rights.
Depending on the wording:

• Agreements made through mediation may override restrictions
• Parenting plans can clarify safe communication and handover arrangements

Each case must be handled carefully and strategically.

You do not need a “perfect” home.
You need:

• A safe environment
• A plan
• Stability appropriate for the children’s ages

Temporary instability does not automatically justify removing parenting time.
However, ignoring the issue can hurt your position. Strategy matters.

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